More Questions and Plans

(There are some hot topic questions if you scroll down. You can skip my blabbery, even!)

Almost 6 months ago I posted my 2 year plan, with hopes of surgeries and other delightful things.

Since I’m such a planner … (I mean, my all day date with Fil is planned to the T but a part of said plan is to make it seem spontaneous!) I’ve decided to create another page just for said 2 year plan. It’s gone through changes, and I plan on putting up the drafts as they roll through my head and out of my fingers. Watch my plan grow and get accomplished on the page titled “The Evolution of a Plan”

Onto the questions. In the post Years I detailed a few pressing questions I had, simply out of curiosity from reading other blogs. My questions then honed in on natural birthing and parenting.

Since then, I’ve developed my own ideas about how I want my birthing experience to go.

But here are my new questions. I know a lot of them pertain to information most people wouldn’t cough up at gun point, so I don’t expect a lot of answers. That’s just what’s floating around in my head, bouncing off the walls and preventing me from doing my work (well not really it’s a sloooow day). If you’ve been lurking and you have an answer to something, please feel free to share it, I won’t bite!

• If I’m under the right assumption, doulas are not covered by any insurance. If that is so, then how much are doula fees? Are post-partum doulas more expensive than birthing doulas? Do you recommend a doula through the whole experience or would using just a post partum doula be okay?
•  As I STILL haven’t gotten an GYN appointment, do you recommend I find a great OB/GYN who will effortlessly transition into my OB or do you recommend seperating the two practices? (I do imagine that could get expensive, but I think insurance covers both, either together or seperate.)
• Since I have had a miscarriage, and PID associated with it, I think I need to have my internal bits looked at before we barrel ahead with TTC. How soon should I have that looked at? Whenever?
• How do you get into a routine of temping? I’m anxiously waiting my period this month so I can finally start temping. I tried it before August of 2007, hoping we would be using WonderSperm. I failed MISERABLY! What little tricks did you use to remind yourself to temp?
• Let’s talk fertility drugs. I’ve noticed that some people try once and then jump straight into using FDs. If you had to make the choice to use fertility drugs, how many tries before you started using them? What prompted the switch?
• How did you find your KD? I know I’ve pressed this question several times on this journal. But I’ve come to the conclusion that I desperately want a KD and not CryoSperm. We will still use a cryobank if it is necessary, but we want to exhaust all KD options first.
• How organised is too organised? In my life there can never be too much organisation, but I know that in the heat of TTC, most planned events go haywire and you have to improvise. Am I going down the right path, though? Formulating strong, solid ideas about what I want for my journey and yet still being willing to bend and flex.

Most importantly…

How do you over come the gnawing fear that everything will fall apart?

I really appreciate any help or guidance you can give me on this. I know my TTC days are still a good stride in the future, but one of my core beliefs is that it’s never too early to at least get an idea, if not a plan. I like knowing what I’m up against and TTC is one of the bigger beasts I will have to fight. I want so much for this experience to be a good one for Fil and myself. We’ve just gotten to normal, I think, and I’d like to keep it that way… if only in our eyes.